When comparing my second pregnancy to my first I've noticed a few differences; I'm getting less sleep, I find myself forgetting to drink water, the first time around I ditched caffeine almost entirely but this time I am having my allotted milligrams most days and overall I just haven't had time to stress over (and over think) every little thing during this pregnancy (mainly because I was looking after a 1 year old). The biggest difference though came in the form of a question I was asked more times than I'd imagine.
The Common Question I was Asked During My 2nd Pregnancy
Was it planned?
Let me start by saying yes, I know my two pregnancies are close together but there have been plenty of women who have had children closer, we are well out of the "Irish Twins" zone.
The first time I was asked "is this a planned pregnancy?" I was at the doctors. I couldn't recall being asked this the first time around but I wasn't sure so I brushed it off. I would then be asked at each appointment by a nurse if this was a planned pregnancy until I was about six months along. After the initial appointment this question became pretty annoying. Did they really need to make a note each month? Wouldn't last month's notes have covered it? Why did it matter to them anyway?
When we announced our pregnancy to family and friends I expected they would be surprised since our first born was about a month shy of turning 1, but what I didn't expect was the amount of times I'd be asked, "was it planned?".
It may seem like a harmless question, but it comes off as pretty cold and almost a little intrusive. What if it wasn't planned? What would they have said back to me if I simply replied "nope!"? Did they really want to have that conversation?
Call me old-fashioned by I think the question "was it planned" in regards to a woman, (almost) in her 30's, who is married with a child already, should be discussed with others behind her back; not asked to her face. But that's just me.
To answer once and for all, yes, this was planned. We knew we wanted to have a second child close in age to our first and we were lucky enough to have our plans work out.